Pain is just the first step. Or is it?

With my upcoming Chiron return – although it’s a little delayed due to Chiron retrograding at the moment – I spent quite an amount of musing about his part in relationship astrology. Sadly, my mentor in this field – Dawn Bodrogi – has passed away in November, before finishing her long-awaited book ‘Beyound the Wound’ on Chiron in Synastry.

I remember one of our talks about someones Mars being spot on my Chiron – she said that this was one of the most compelling and also most painful aspects. ‘He will hurt you. I’ll guarantee that.’ And so he did, in a very male/martian way. In the aftermath, I don’t know what made me so calm about it. Was it, because the whole thing felt like a part of my rebirth / healing process? She also said, that the Chiron person is usually the one, that is ‘spirtually more evolved’ and capable of going the extra mile, although there is no guarantee that it’ll pay off in the long run.

As I’m about to change a lot of things in my life at the moment, I thought of engaging more in astrology again, because the subject never failed to fascinate me over the last 34 years. Which says a lot about someone with Virgo rising, a Gemini Moon and Mercury / Sun in Aquarius, I guess 😉

So, for my own Chiron studies, I’d like to invite everyone to share their hurtful/healing relationship experiences with me. Chiron’s hurts are the one of the soul, not physical. If you want to participate, just send me your birth dates (date, time, place) and the one of the person you suspect you’re having (or had) a ‘chironic’ relationship with. I’ll check if Chiron is indeed involved and get back to you – either with a short explanation if your problems aren’t/weren’t caused by Chiron, or – if Chiron is involved in a significant way – further questions about how it all played out for you.
Also I’m interested in your personal Chiron-return storys. Chiron (in transit) returns to the place he is in your birthchart at a given point between age 49 – 51. Around ten years later followed by the more commonly known 2nd Saturn return which is also a pretty challenging time for most people.

My theory about the connection between these two major transits at the moment is: if you handled the Chiron return wisely and came to terms with your ‘inner wound’ – the 2nd Saturn return will find you prepared. If not … and this is just a shot in the dark at this point from my personal view – it might be a time, when both themes will show up on your doorstep. Your Chiron’s placement indicates where your soul is wounded and vulnerable – while Saturn represents your (karmic) fears.

Without pain, we’d never know what happiness feels like – and sometimes we just need to overcome our fears and be brave enough for the first step out of our comfort zone. It can hurt, but there is so much to be gained.

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Saturn and Endings … for my ‘Papa’

My dad died about 3 weeks ago. He had been ill for some years, after surviving tongue-cancer in 2005, he was diagnosed with COPD. But he was unable to quit smoking. And so, on a warm evening in July, a beautiful sunset glowing outside his hospital window, he closed his eyes forever while his 2nd wife Nina and I were holding his hands.

When I arrived, the man lying in that ‘intensive care’ bedroom only barely resembled the one I had visited (in the same room) just 2 days ago. Who was curious to see my new tattoo and insisted that I showed it to the (also tattoed) nurse that entered. Who sang ‘I can’t get no …’ when I said, that I had tickets for the Stones in autumn and told me, that he saw them at the famous Berlin Waldbühne gig back in the 60s…

But now he was already far away, laying motionless, looking right through me and Nina was still trying to pull him back with words. She said ‘you promised me 20 years – it hasn’t been 20 years yet’. I understood that my part was to help him to ‘let go’. So I told him, that I was there and that my sister, my mum and whonot (I said all the names aloud) knew that I was with him at this moment and that they all were thinking of him right now, and that he shouldn’t make it too hard for him and just let go. And then he went. So silent that we only realized that he was gone, when the doctor took my hand and said he was sorry, but that at least he’d died painless and without suffocating (which had been his greatest fear during the last 2 years) and with two of his closest family members at his side.

When I went home, I made a horoscope for his deathdate and had a sudden realization about that Saturn transit currently opposite my natal Moon. You only have these transits every 28 years and the last time, Saturn was in that exact position, my grandfather had died. Saturn makes rules and regulations and can also stand for ultimate endings. So, his opposition to my Moon seems to be some sort of marker for the end of a soul-connection. In my father’s chart, transiting Saturn was exactly conjunct his natal Chiron – his ‘wound’ and sore spot, while transiting Neptune was exactly opposite his natal Saturn – ‘dream’ opposing ‘reality’. So that also means that my dad’s Chiron was opposite my Moon – my last words to him might explain our relationship ‘You didn’t made it easy for us, but I was always proud of you. I love you.’. He was a difficult man, an artist, a painter, sex’n’drugs’n’rock’n’roll but he always said that the best things he’d ‘done’ in his life were my sister and me.

Last time, Saturn was opposite my Moon, one man left and then a new one entered my live. So let’s see if history’s repeating.

‘I wanna know, have you ever seen the rain, coming down a sunny day?’

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Winter is coming …

Tomorrow the Sun will move into Cancer and we’ll experience the longest day of the year in the northern hemisphere. Which also means that from now on the days will get shorter again and – yes – winter is coming …

As my natal Moon is in the last degrees of Gemini I always feel this ‘change of season’ in my soul. This year even more so as Saturn is currently in a Position exactly opposite my Moon. The last time it has been in this exact spot was 29 years ago, in the summer in which I got married.

So I’d like to interpret this as a time of serious and longterm decisions about my future and most of all my soul’s happiness. Saturn is currently retrograde and so he was opposite my Moon in the beginning and will be opposite my Moon again at the end of this year, before he finally ‘moves on’. So I have this whole timeframe to properly prepare for ‘winter’.

People with their Sun or Moon in the last 10 degrees of Virgo and Pisces might experience this as a very hard time as Saturn is squaring their natal planets and this will mostly be felt as unwelcome boundaries to body & soul. Whereas the ones with their Sun or Moon in the last degrees of the Fire and Air signs (Aries / Leo / Sagittarius and Aquarius / Gemini / Libra) might be provided with a helpful set of ‘new rules’ or facing lifechanging reality checks.

In fact it finally seems that things are about to fall into place for me. With a price I’m willing to pay.

Happy midsummer to all of you out there.

 

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When Neptune meets Saturn … Diamonds & Rust

Well I’ll be damned
Here comes your ghost again
But that’s not unusual
It’s just that the moon is full

(Joan Baez • Diamonds and Rust)


 
Long time no post … but the first full moon of the new year seems to be a good time to come out of the silence.

My own personal dance of Neptune & Saturn is again in full swing. Transformation of ‘what was’ into ‘what can be’ has been set into motion about three weeks ago. Neptune adds enough vagueness to give Saturn time to muse about realities. I have changed during the last half year under their influence. My sister told me some days ago, my new years chakra theme will be the indigo or 5th chakra … so ‘enlightenment’ is kind of in sight. And that’s how it feels like. Whether I’ll discover diamonds or rust. I’m in love and he ‘who is so good with words and at keeping things vague’ is ‘in love too, maybe on another plane, but as deeply’ … not the worst way to head into a new year.

Ramused went to see ‘Love, Love, Love’ in NYC and sent me a spare keychain she had obtained, which arrived two days prior to christmas.
So ‘Love, Love, Love’ for all of you out there for 2017, despite all that shit swirling around the planet at the moment.

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You and Me and Karma makes Three … part 2

And it’s a wrap. Well at least a temporary one around my right wrist. 😉

This is the follow up to my post from early march “upps … or: You and Me and Karma makes Three

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I visited the charming “Rabenschwarz” (meaning raven-black) Tattoo Parlour today and it took only about 10 minutes and that was that. Now Neptune & Saturn will battle infinitely on my arm.

I really like how it turned out 🙂

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As the date was given by Calina, the tattoist, I just didn’t wanted to check the event chart beforehand. When I drew it up as I got home today, I couldn’t help laughing, as it is quite befitting this whole Karma-Tattoo-Thing. This whole chart is very very powerful.

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The most significant thing about it is probably the mutable T-square between Saturn in adventurous Sagittarius on cusp of the 3rd house (communication), Neptune in dreamy Pisces in the 5th house (romance) and Jupiter in 11th house (hopes & wishes) in communicative Virgo. In short: reality and dreams are very well connected today 🙂
They are connected to the nodal axis as well, with the North Node on cusp of the 12th house. Which is all about Karma. Exploring one’s inner self, connecting the pieces of the puzzle.
My own natal nodal axis is at this moment in time exactly conjunct Jupiter/Neptune btw … reversed however with Neptune on my natal North Node in my 7th house of relationships.

As Mercury’s still retrograde, words don’t come easy, so I’ll leave it with this. Fellow astrologers please feel free to comment, there’s a lot in it. 🙂

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Some foggy notions on Mercury’s current retrograde …

A lot of things didn’t happen according to plan during this Mercury retrograde period (which is about to end on May 23rd). A lot of things did. And although it felt like a good time for deeper understanding, words are still eluding me.

While on an emotional level … do you know the feeling, when you don’t want to but – for multiple reasons – simply have to leave a certain place and person at a given point? It doesn’t matter that you know, you’ll be back in a couple of weeks. It doesn’t matter that reason tells you that it is probably even for the better, just the way it is.

Because: it just doesn’t FEEL like it. So in a way you’re happy and sad at the same time. And a bit confused. Or a lot. As your brain seems to consist only of foggy notions, it’s hard to tell. In any event – it took me almost five days to start writing about it. Well at least sort of writing about it. 😉

Let’s see what happens when Mercury stations direct on may 23rd … I suspect that in the meantime I’ll find me listening to this a lot:
The Velvet Underground / Foggy Notion

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upps … or: You and Me and Karma makes Three

Sometimes it seems a whole lotta karma can be set in motion with the slightest of triggers. In my case this was a very short word. Well technically not even a real word. Just ‘upps’ (german for ‘whoops’).

It took me some time to figure out the astrological triggers. Rather unsurprisingly all four of the ‘usual suspects’ were involved – namely Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. Now, this is something that shakes you to the core and turns your world upside down. I had a long talk with N.Y. based astrologer Dawn Bodrogi about this and she said “everything is in motion and changing, it’s funny that you’re sounding completely calm about it”. In a way I really am. In a way I’m not. But I’m trying to make the most of it. The road to enlightenment and / or personal evolution isn’t straight. There is no ‘finish line’ in sight. Maybe it’s behind the next corner. Maybe not. But if I don’t keep moving on, I’ll never know.

While musing about my chart I was doodling planetary symbols and had – out of the blue – the idea to get a very special tattoo befitting this whole situation. I’ve been fascinated with tattoos since my dad got one, when I was about 12. I made it a rule, that every idea that got into my head had to last at least for half a year. With my erratic Gemini moon – so far – none of them did. But since the fascination for astrology is as old as the one for tattoos for me, this seems to be a solid enough basis 😉

The idea I finally came up with consists of the symbols for Neptune, Infinity and Saturn. As it’s an infinite task to successfully combine one’s dreams with reality. One or the other will always get in the way or have the upper hand – at least for a while. And then the dance begins anew.

When I made the final sketch – which I’m about to discuss with a local tattoo artist in mid april – I suddenly realized, that the little, not even real word ‘upps’ somehow made its way in the drawing as well. Karma is some cunning bitch.

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